17 May took on a second new meaning for me. It is my mother’s death anniversary and also the day Antioch Chapel conducted her first memorial service for Terry. The encounter with the passing of someone changes us. Today I would like to share how the first memorial service changes an elder.
I received news of the sudden passing of Terrance on 16 May 2021. Knowing his faith in Jesus and the better place he is going did not make it easier to process the information. Just 3 weeks before we met and he was complaining about pain in his back. On 1 May 2021, we were texting each other and that was the final exchange of words we had.
We felt honoured that the family permitted us to conduct the memorial service before the cremation. Everyone deserves a time for the living to say their goodbye in an honourable way. When I was tasked to speak at the service, I did not hesitate. I am glad I did because it changed me. As there were time constraints because of the Covid-19 measures, the message was to be short. The passage I chose was what I considered the most assuring passages of the scripture.
Romans 8:31-39 What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things? Who shall lay any thing to the charge of God’s elect? It is God that justifieth. Who is he that condemneth? It is Christ that died, yea rather, that is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also maketh intercession for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
I chose this passage because I believe this is the passage Terry embraced. What is the use of faith without such assurance? With this, I started my sharing.
Many of us know brother Terrance as Terry. I know Terry early in my in care ministry. My first impression of Terry is that he loves to play the guitar. After every session, he will pick up the guitar and strum it in one corner. I am sure many will agree with me that when we see a guitar, we will be reminded of brother Terry.
When he was leading worship in Antioch, he will always start the service with a mantra – I am highly favoured, deeply love and greatly blessed. I doubt this will be done on Antioch Chapel regularly from now on. But whenever someone mentions this, the memory of brother Terry will live on.
There were a few time Terry joined me in street witnessing and praying for the sick. He will always approach the most in need person to be prayed for. Once we were in King Georges area and he pointed me to a person in a wheelchair. We asked for permission to pray for the person but we were rejected. Frankly speaking, I recall that moment, as the moment that stretched the elder’s faith.
Brother Terry brought us once to his father’s place for dinner. It was a wonderful evening of eating char kway teow, satay and a whole lot of conversation. I could sense the joyful spirit filling the room as Mr Low and his son dine and chat over a simple dinner.
As a brother in Christ, Terry will go all way out to help if you needed him. I am sure brother Barry can testify to that. I know there are many more good things could be shared by a various individual today about but we were limited by measures. May those moments reside in a special place of our hearts and each time those memories arises, it will remind us of our dear brother Terry.
On 16 May 2021, brother Terry has left us suddenly and we all feel a sense of loss, but I know brother Terry is in the hands of our Lord Jesus Christ. Terry has fought his fight and finished the race. He has kept the faith.
By the words of our Lord Jesus, who died on the cross and rose again, spoke of the things to come. We must pay attention to the words of one who had been raised from the dead.
I am going to read some promises our risen Lord has given to those who trust in Him.
John 3:13-18
And no man hath ascended up to heaven, but he that came down from heaven, even the Son of man which is in heaven. And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so, must the Son of man be lifted up: That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life. For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
On another occasion, Jesus spoke to His followers in John 11:25-26
Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: And whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die. Do you believe this?
The word of God is not wishful thinking. From the words of one of the faithful follower of Christ that brings great assurance for us all concerning the destiny of those who follow Jesus.
For those who believe in Christ and His words, today is a temporary separation between Terry and us.
The day will come we will meet him again. The word of God has hope for us all. The word of God has certainty for us all. The word of God will have the final say for us all. Let us trust in the word of God for our certain future and security.
So what changed did I experience? Firstly, look at a person’s good side. In a memorial service, we bypass all the weaknesses and wrongs of the diseased. What if we could do so when the person is yet alive? Would not that be a much better way to relate? Secondly, help others if there are opportunities without expecting a return. We never know how long we are going to be around. Finally, keep the faith. It is where you have certainty in eternity and the only certainty you can have is in the word of God because He is faithful.